“Situationships are quite popular among today’s new generation. It’s a relationship where the essence of love blends within a friendship. Even though there is love and sincerity, there are no strict rules or commitments. So, does that mean promises have lost their value?”
“Sometimes, you meet someone unexpectedly, and they say, ‘Oh, long time no see! Let’s catch up one day…’ We used to believe in such words, but in the end, the meeting or visit never happens. Do people make promises just to break them?
“Love comes and goes, many songs remain unfinished. Who remembers the promises made? Yet, celebrations continue. On the fourth day of Valentine’s Week, people fill their hands with roses, chocolates, and teddy bears. That’s when the question arises — ‘Promise me you won’t forget, I won’t forget…'”
In the past, promises were very important in relationships. They seemed to be the foundation of the relationship itself. But over time, people’s thinking has changed. Now, they realize that nothing is permanent, not even relationships. So, the new generation now prioritizes ‘situationships.’ Here, the feeling of love exists within friendship, but there is no rigidity or obligation.
Which is better or more ideal? Keeping promises after making them, or avoiding promises out of fear of not being able to keep them?
Actress Srabanti Chatterjee is very clear about keeping promises. According to her, “I cannot make a promise to anyone that I won’t be able to keep. So, I would not want anyone to demand such promises from me either.” She admits that not being able to keep a promise hurts her internally. At the same time, she is not in favor of forcing anyone to keep promises. She doesn’t even expect such demands from her own son.
Singer Anupam Roy believes that the foundation of a relationship is built when there is a promise involved. However, he views these promises as personal matters and doesn’t think too much about them or want to share them with others. For him, the promises made to himself are the most important. He says that if someone breaks a promise made to another person, they can cover it up with a little lie, but if they break a promise made to themselves, they are the ones who get harmed.
Anupam has admitted to breaking his own promises. For example, he often tells himself that he will not eat sweets for the next six months, but he cannot resist the sweet made from date palm jaggery in the winter. He convinces himself every day, but by noon, he ends up eating some sweets. This is one of his major weaknesses.
Currently, Anupam doesn’t particularly believe in promises made by others. He says, “It’s human nature to break promises. I used to be upset about this when I was younger, but as I’ve grown older, I realize it’s something that needs to be accepted. What people think doesn’t always happen — that’s the natural rule of life.”
However, does he live carefully in his own life? When asked this question, the singer pauses for a moment, then smiles faintly and says, “I can’t say much about this.”
Actress Paoli Dam believes that promises are mainly made to be broken. She says, “Not everyone intentionally breaks promises. Sometimes, circumstances force it, and that has to be understood. So, I speak less and prefer to prove myself through actions.”
Bollywood star Salman Khan famously says, “Once I give my word, I don’t listen to myself anymore.” Paoli agrees with this notion and claims that she tries to keep her promises. However, she adds that if someone is unable to keep their word due to circumstances, she does not feel sorry for them. She maintains good relationships with her loved ones.
Actor and director Parambrata Chattopadhyay doesn’t overthink about Promise Day. According to him, such promises are not that important. He says, “Valentine’s Day is fine, it’s a sweet thing. But I can’t remember all the days that come before or after it, and honestly, they don’t really serve any special purpose.” He admits that he makes promises, but not according to any specific day or time.
